Need advice from divorced men (with kids) living with or married to a single mom?

i here where you are coming from. if he isn't ready for that, then it wouldn't be a good living environment for you or your kids. there is nothing wrong with you wanting a family life, and a father figure for your children. who knows he may never be that guy and may never ever move in. you could easily be wasting your time with this guy, though you love him, he can't give you what you are looking for or what you want or need right now. i don't think it's wrong that if he isn't willing to give you this, you will find someone who can. everyone should be happy in life and live the life they want. tell him exactly what you need now, a boyfriend, lover, father, a man to help raise two children. if he cannot do that now, tell him you are sorry but you cannot wait for him any longer. perhaps he will change his mind, perhaps not. either way you get your answer and can move on..good luck